I am sure everyone is aware of the term personality development. The emphasis on these two words is so common these. There are so many institutes and centers offering crash courses in personality development. Do you have any idea about what exactly personality is and how can you build and rebuild it? If you think personality means looking good and attractive then my friend you are absolutely wrong. Personality is a very broad term and takes into account the physical as well as the mental state of an individual. At times even mannerism is considered a part of personality. No matter where you go be it an interview or your daily working place your overall personality plays a very crucial role in determining your success. This is the reason why so many people now a day’s enroll for personality development programs. But to be honest you do not need to do all that. Keep one thing in mind that these institutes do not any magic and will not turn you into a different being devoid of flaws. They merely teach you how to manipulate yourself and bring out the good. This can be done by yourself as well with a little guidance and you can save your precious money from slipping out of your pocket. These institutes do charge handsomely. I can help you with a few tips that can help you develop your personality within a few days. The following are the important tips that can help you in developing your personality.
10. Know yourself
The first step on your quest to develop your personality is to know yourself. It is very important to know yourself in order to figure out what needs to be done to modify your existing personality. Knowing yourself is not about knowing your favorite color, food and etc. It is about knowing your limitations and plus points. You must be aware of your abilities so that you can use them when the time comes. You need to analyze yourself and find out what is it that you lacking in. Are you short tempered or do you panic easily or is that you can’t speak in a group. Find out and then accordingly we can work on your personality.
You need to accept one thing that you cannot be best at everything. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. You are different from others; you have your own set of talents and abilities. Just because there is someone around who is great at a think you are not good at does not mean he is better than you. There will be things that he cannot do but you can. No one is perfect in this world. So never compare yourself to others. It does more harm than good. Love yourself and you will definitely achieve a better personality.
A very important trait that is required to achieve anything in life is a positive attitude. Yes there are things that you want to do but cant. There might be situation you are unhappy about. But there are also the good moments. There are situations where you were praised and proved successful. So don’t let the tough times beat you. Have a positive attitude in life. Tell yourself that you can do the task given to you. It has been seen that having a positive approach increases the chances of completing a task at hand. Positive attitude also makes you friendly and cheerful which on the whole reflects in your personality.
Personality as I said is not just about how you look. It is how you present yourself. It is how you impress others. An expressionless and monotonous tone will get you nowhere. You need to have an attitude that is pleasing so that you are welcomed wherever you go. Be courteous and humble. Greet your juniors with a smile and reply back to their greetings. At times have lunch together or offer your lunch to them. Be available for your people and you will become dependable for them. This is a remarkable trait for your personality. Mannerism weighs a lot in the professional world.
6. Body Language
Having a personality takes into account everything. Not just the way you dress up and talk but also your body language. How you walk, sit , eat , how you behave when others are talking etc make a huge impact on others. Your body language is therefore a very important is very aspect of your personality. Have a relaxed posture. Walk upright do not droop or be extra rigid. When others in a group are talking have a relaxed tone. Do not get involved with the surroundings but pay attention to the speaker. If he is talking to you have a calm eye contact and not staring or distracted. Have a good body language that shows that you are confident.
The easiest way to achieve a good personality is to have a good physique. It cannot be denied that a good physique is very important. It is a very important part of your personality. Your physique not only sets an impression but it speaks a lot about you. A good physique says that you are a well planned person. You think about yourself and about your health. It also gives a perception that you are away from bad habits and company. It really says a lot about you. So start exercising and stay fit to develop your personality.
A very vital part of any personality development program is to help you speak better. By speaking better I do not mean using big words and giving speeches. The words you use are very important. Have a decent and simple manner of speaking. Use a language that is understood by all. Now a day’s English has the top priority. If you do not have grips over this language enroll yourself with some coaching class. When you speak in a group see to it that your words are not offending or agitating. When to speak is more important than what to speak. So take care of your speech as much as you can.
A great personality knows how to impress and make an impact. In the professional world where you work or stay in a group; to be accepted by others is very important. All the pain of building a personality is to be accepted so that we can move on and work in a better way. Develop a habit of appreciating your mates no matter how small the work is. Although take care that you are not being fake. Appreciating others makes you a very friendly person. You also motivate your mates and that makes you a better employee as well. Thus a simple habit of appreciating helps you develop your personality by making you a little selfless.
Yes personality is not all about dressing up but the way you dress does have an impact on your personality. So even if not the most important you attire is definitely one of the most important aspect of your personality. Dress up in a decent manner. Be professional and avoid flashy colors. Avoid unnecessary piercing on your body or tattoos. Wear neatly ironed and unstained clothes. Look professional or according to the environment of your working place. It is very important to develop your personality to have a great sense of dressing.
I will definitely say that this is the most important thing to be achieved to obtain a better personality. You have to be confident with whatever you do. Your confidence says that you know about your work and you are well aware of your abilities. If you shy of speaking in public then you have to start speaking as having confidence is very important. Believe in yourself and to help you build confidence read success stories of other people. Have motivational slogans and pictures on your board etc to help you boot your confidence.