Man is generally called a “social being” because he knows how to treat people and behave well in public and also to lead a social life. But, we all tend to make societal blunders and do not even realize it! We don’t even know that we have been a public nuisance or have hurt someone’s feelings/emotions and at times we don’t even realize that we disrespected them in the silliest yet biggest way! Just because you live with fellow human beings, you cannot take the society and etiquette for granted. As you know very well, “every action has an equal and opposite reaction”. The general rule “treat others the way you want to be treated” works well when it comes to social life. To have a good image with the people at work, society and friends and to have a peaceful and smooth life, it is very essential to keep up certain social etiquettes. Your public behavior reflects your character. Even a very simple move could make or break friendship, career or any other personal or public relationships.
Here are some of the biggest Societal Blunders that most people tend to commit without even realizing it.
10. Being Late
Nowadays, one’s time is considered more important than money! When you are invited for a party or any meeting, never be late. Most people take others’ time for granted and consider it quite common to be late. Well, it is not so. When you are late, you make the host feel worthless and offended. It shows your disrespect and carelessness towards others as you consider your time to be more precious and important than theirs. Make sure you reach on time for the event if you want your relationship with the host to be friendly and smooth.
9. Being an Uninvited Guest
Trying to attend an event to which you are not even invited is the most catastrophic blunder you could ever commit. Also, over staying at your host’s place, just because it makes you feel good to be there is not at all a good deed either. In both cases, you are just being a nuisance to the host. You put them in a very difficult situation as they can not object you from attending the event nor can they bluntly show you the exit. It would just make you look pathetic and unlikable. Always remember, “Do not invite yourself and do not overstay”.
8. Self-centered talk
When you are in a group, socializing and talking about various things with different people, do not always talk about yourself. Also, let others talk too! Socializing is all about mingling with people. It is not a place for a monologue. You may have a lot of things to share but it is not the right place to talk about all of them. Nobody is actually interested in what you have got to say, if you are not really interested in theirs. If you keep talking without giving a chance to others, you become the most annoying person in the group and will be alienated in the future. Be interested and be interesting as well to be welcome anywhere.
7. Treating others poorly
You may be a big-shot, billionaire’s only child or the CEO of an MNC but it does not mean you can treat anybody the way you like. Everyone born in this world has his/her own purpose. Of course the service staff’s job is to serve you in the best possible way but you need not be mean to him and call him names or shout at him wildly for spilling a drop of water on the table. “To err is human”. Be kind and polite with anybody irrespective of their financial or social status because they are just your fellow beings.
6. Forgetting table etiquettes
In any gathering, it’s quite natural to eat whatever that is nice. But it is also essential to be nice when you eat in public. You may have starved the entire day and have a huge appetite. What ever may be the case, do not eat with your mouth wide open and make all crunching noises while eating . It will create a sense of disgust among the people around you and make you look like an animal. Remember all the table manners that your parents taught you when you were young and follow them until you die if you don’t want to commit any societal blunders in future.
5. Binge Drinking
Nowadays binge drinking has become a very common phenomenon that people get drunk and lose all their senses. At many parties, social drinking is a part of the celebration where people take alcohol in limited amounts without actually getting drunk. Do not over drink at parties as you may get intoxicated and behave rashly which will damage your social life and public image. It would also cause huge embarrassment to the host in front of all his guests and annoy the other people too who are gathered there.
4. Interrupting a conversation
Most people tend to barge into a conversation all of a sudden to state their own point or start talking about something else and do not even apologize for doing so! You may have something urgent to announce or you may also want to give your suggestion regarding the topic that’s being discussed but interrupting without prior apology would be very rude. If you want to say something, you may very well wait for the person to finish talking and then say it. If it’s really an emergency, there’s always enough time to use the magic words “sorry”, “please” and “thank you” if you really have to interrupt.
3. Talking loudly in public
Talking is your right and having a peace of mind is others right too! You may be having the best time of your life, but it need not be the best moment for the people around you. Speaking loudly with your peers or screaming at the top of your voice over the phone is the worst way to behave in public. Always mind the environment you are in and act accordingly. You may shout at a person in a lower pitch and yet be rude enough or talk in a soft voice and still share your joy with your pals. You need not always raise your voice to be heard or to show your ecstasy.
2. Texting and E-mailing
People talk to you because they respect you and give importance to your existence. But checking your e-mails when you are speaking with someone and not paying attention to what they are talking is the most callous way to show your disrespect to them. The e-mail can always wait. The same goes with your text messages. If you text or mail when you are actually talking with other people, it shows your lack of interest in the people who are sitting right next to you spending their most precious time with you and that you care more about someone else who is far way and does not require your immediate attention. Always make sure to pay necessary attention to people who are with you. If it is really that important, always apologize and ask for an excuse to check your email/text message.
1. Skipping an introduction & eye contact
This is the biggest blunder that most people make very frequently. You may know everyone at a gathering but your friend who has come along with you may not. It is your responsibility to introduce him/her to the others at the gathering. While introducing, the person of greater authority is mentioned first. Example: “Mr. President, may I introduce to you our manager Mr. X”. A person who knows both the parties should automatically introduce them to each other. If you are the one being introduced, always make an eye contact and immediately shake hands with them. Talking with an eye-contact with the other person shows your genuineness and confidence. A firm handshake also represents the same.