Grief is something that we cannot control. We do not have the power to prevent bad things from happen. Some of the bad things happen because of our mistakes like breakups, loss of life because of carelessness and many more and some are destined to happen and we cannot control them. We can go into depression because of many reasons such as when we are unemployed, or if we are having relationship troubles, breaking of marriage, loss of life and many such sad things. Though we do not have the authority to prevent some of the bad things from happening but we can try and cope up with the pain that has been caused. Grief if not coped up with can leads to depression and many more diseases which are caused due to depression and stress. There are many symptoms that help us to realize that the person is suffering from depression or grief. The person becomes angry for small things and shouts without any reason, he prefers to spends time alone, he is not able to sleep properly and is usually found crying, there is a change in his weight and his appetite, he is always found restless and suffering from headache, fatigue, nausea and many more diseases. If not controlled, grief can cause serious damage to a person’s physical, emotional and mental state. It is thus very important to deal with the grief we are suffering from. This article gives us the top 10 tips that we can utilize in order to cope up with our grief.
10. WATCH COMEDY MOVIES
Comedy movies are all times favorite and helps a lot in dealing with the grief. Comedy movies lighten up the mood and help us to forget about our problems and worries. If not completely, but watching comedy movies can make us forget about our problems for a small period of time which is a good sign. We should watch light comedy movies in order to deal with grief.
9. SPEND TIME WITH SMALL CHILDREN
Small children of 2 to 4 year of age have the capability to make anyone smile. The innocence of small children can make us forget about all the bad things that have happened to us. The little funny things that they do, the way in which they talk, their way of smiling, and almost everything that they do, have purity and an innocence that can make anyone smile. So, it is very much preferable to spend as much time as we can with small children. It can be done by either teaching junior classes in a school or by joining play schools as a teacher.
8. SPEND TIME WITH FRIENDS
Friends are considered as an important part of our life and thus have the ability to make us forget almost anything bad. Friends not only console us but they can also divert our mind by their stupid acts. They care for us so much that they will try every single thing that they can do in order to change our mood. Moreover, they know us very well and not a minute detail is hidden from them, which makes it easier for them to cheer up our mood. And also, since they are so close to us, we can share all our feelings with them which is very much required if we want to deal with our grief.
7. AVOID SPENDING TIME ALONE
The last thing that one should do when in grief is to spend time alone. Though the sadness in us will want us to spend as much time as we can alone and to stay away from everything and everyone, but we should not let that happen. Even if we do not want to be around people, we should suppress this feeling of ours and hang out with people around. We can spend time with friends and families, can go out for parties, can volunteer at different places, can join different clubs and there are many more other ways. All we have to do is to avoid spending time alone and be around people for as much time as we can, if we want to deal with our grief.
6. START MAINTAINING A DIARY
To deal with grief, the most important thing that we have to do is to express our feelings. Expressing feelings prevents us from going into depression since when we express our feelings then it helps us to let go of things. It is not possible for everyone to express each and every feeling of theirs to someone. So, in that case it is effective to keep a journal where we can write every single detail of what we feel and of what we are going through. This will help us to deal with grief and also to understand our feelings.
Meditation can cure almost any kind of problem. Meditation and yoga helps to release all the negativity, tension, stress and basically all the reasons which can lead to grief. It not only frees us from all kind of negative thoughts that are there in our mind but also help us to stay fit and healthy. There are many types of poses such as Breathing, Tadasana, Uttanasana, Utkatasana, Bharadvaja’s Twist, Viparita Karani, Enchanting‘Om’ and many more which can be performed if we want to remove negative thoughts and thus to deal with grief.
4. EXPRESS FEELINGS
The best way to deal with grief is to express every single thought of ours whether good or bad to someone. If we have negative thought, then expressing them to someone will give them an opportunity to change our thinking and to remove those thoughts from our mind. Moreover, we will feel light if we share what we feel to someone. Sitting quiet and not saying anything will only lead us to more depression. Expressing feelings will help us let go of things that is the reason behind our grief. So we should share our feelings to someone with whom we are comfortable and whom we trust as it will help us to deal with our grief.
3. LET GO OF THINGS AND THE PERSON
As it is said that cry a river, build a bridge and get over it. We should do the same, means we should not control our emotions and cry as much as we want so that all the baggage can be removed and we can finally let go of things or person that is responsible for our grief. Thus, we should try and forget the things and the person that makes us depressed, if we want to deal with our grief.
2. SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP
Sometimes, things have gone so worse that it becomes necessary to consult a therapist. Seeking professional help does not mean that we are not mentally well, but it is just a way to deal with our grief. There are some things that we are not able to share with anyone, which can lead us to more depression if not shared. A therapist will help us to deal with such things and we can even share those things with the therapist as there is a professional trust factor. So, if we want to cope up with our grief, it is preferable to seek professional help before things get worse.
1. JOIN A GROUP
Joining a support group can help in many ways to deal with grief. Since there will be a lot of people in a group, so we will never be alone and will always be surrounded by different people. Also, since people there are also suffering from same problems, we will be able to relate with them which ultimately helps to build up a relationship and thus will help us to express our feelings in front of them. Thus, we should join a support group, if we want to deal with our grief.